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Resource Book for Covenant Groups


Purpose

A covenant group is a small relational group made up of six to eight people who meet regularly to establish and nurture themselves in their own beloved community. Covenant groups provide an opportunity for group members to build strong relationships with each other and with the larger organization of which the small group is a part.

Covenant groups encourage people to talk, learn, work and play together over time. Members may tell their life stories, offer support and engage in work to serve the larger community. Covenant groups offer expanding opportunities for growth, caring and connection within a congregation. Covenant groups offer caring affirmative networks, mutual responsibility, leadership opportunities and a way for people to build and strengthen their communities.

In a covenant group, people experience a relational individuality which affirms the inherent worth and dignity of every person. People experience themselves and each other as part of the interdependent web of existence in which we are all a part. Together, people establish communities which embody the values of justice, democracy and human dignity. Each person is treated equitably. Each person has a voice and is heard. And each person is respected for his or her own intrinsic humanity. The defining purpose of a covenant group is to bring people into the right relationship with each other and with the larger world.

Covenant groups are supportive and can be therapeutic. However, covenant groups are not therapy groups. Covenant groups are not a substitute for appropriate professional care.


Facilitators

Each covenant group will have a trained facilitator to lead the sessions. The role is specifically one of facilitator, neither teacher nor minister. The facilitator will act as part of the group. Apprentice facilitators are not in charge of the group, but work with the facilitator, learning how to be a group leader.

Selecting Facilitators:

There will be a general call for facilitators. Facilitators must have prior experience with group dynamics (for example, previous chair of a committee) and have strong relationship skills: the ability to listen, to include everyone in the group, to handle awkward situations.

All those interested in being facilitators or apprentice facilitators will meet with the minister and Covenant Group Committee.

Training

The Covenant Group Committee will coordinate training to be led by the minister and other appropriate trainers. Continuing facilitator education, perhaps once a year, is desirable.

Facilitators may apprentice with another leader until they feel comfortable leading a group on their own or until another Covenant group forms.

Support

Facilitators will meet monthly with the minister and other facilitators. This will provide a forum for evaluating how the groups are doing, discussing problems, generating new ideas and sharing learning.

Commitment

Facilitators will be committed to the group they lead for the same period of time as all members, one year. At that point they may choose whether or not to continue in the role of facilitator. Facilitators are expected to make every effort to attend all meetings of their group.


Administrative Committee

The Administrative Committee, made up of two members, will perform administrative functions. They will be responsible for matching group members with facilitators.

The Administrative Committee will maintain a revolving list of people who are interested in joining a group. When there is a sufficient number (probably six) of people, a new group will be formed. The Administrative Committee will also maintain a list of volunteers who want to be facilitators and will match them with a group. Facilitators, however, will be responsible for contacting group members.


Discussion Topics

Initially topics will be chosen from two sources:
  • A resource guide, "Transforming Our Churches with Small Group Ministry" by Rev. Glenn Turner
  • A sampler from the UU Community of Augusta, Maine, by Rev. Calvin Dame.
As groups develop, other topics may emerge from either sermons or suggestions from group members. The proposed topics will be discussed by the minister and the facilitators group before being prepared for the catalogue. From time to time, all groups will be encouraged to explore an assigned topic in conjunction with a sermon preached by the minister.

Each group will decide what topics will be discussed. Topics may last for one session or for several depending on the wishes of the group.

Current Discussion Topics


Rules, Regulations and Guidelines for Development of Coventant Groups

Although the structure and format of individual covenant groups may be modified to meet the needs and interests of group members, each covenant group will need to follow these basic principles and guidelines:
  • Each covenant group will utilize a common format and structure that fosters the development of deeper spirituality.
  • Each covenant group will develop group rules to maintain a supportive environment in which group participation proceeds fairly, equitably and with mutual respect for all members.
  • Each covenant group will have a facilitator who assumes a leadership role and assists with group process, group functioning and group decision making.
  • Decision-making will be by general consensus of group members under the direction and guidelines established by group facilitators.
  • After the end of a trial enrollment, group members will make a commitment to participate in their group for the church year.
  • Covenant groups are confidential. Each member will make a commitment to respect and maintain the confidentiality of members regarding personal information which may be disclosed during group discussions. However, the facilitator will be free to share all information without restriction with the minister. Facilitators will meet monthly with the minister.
  • Group rules will be developed which incorporate these principles. As needed, additional group rules will be developed to facilitate the effective functioning of the group.

    Such rules should include the following:

    • The right of each member to pass and not participate in a particular discussion or exercise
    • Mutual respect for different opinions and different perspectives
    • Active listening by all members when one individual is speaking
    • Avoiding side conversations or interruptions, as these are disruptive
    • Firm commitment to start and end on schedule as determined by group members
    • Members will share the privilege and responsibility of helping the group to function.
    • Members will respect and support the leadership role of the group facilitator to ensure effective functioning of the group.